A Thank you to mothers who fight [Present and Future expectant mommies: pay attention]

Since diving head first into the world of supporting parents, NICUs/preemies, and the issues that can arise during and after pregnancy, I have seen and heard many varying experiences from parents, mostly moms, one underlying theme has moved me.  ADVOCACY. Advocates for their own care, advocates for their child’s care, advocates for change.  I’m going to talk specifically about pre-eclampsia here, but the underlying theme remains the same in any case, at any time  – If you don’t think your concerns are being heard, FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL LISTEN.

Now, pre-eclampsia/HELLP syndrome is not just high blood pressure and a bit of protein.  These conditions can be fatal, or at the very least can cause other dangerous ailments for all involved.  Its not my intent to scare, but often times, we don’t know or learn about it until after the fact. I cannot tell you how many stories I have seen from women worldwide who are being told they don’t have pre-e, or yeah, their blood pressure is high, but no protein so go on home and rest…… to be left with staggering outcomes.  We can change that, but only if we take some initiative.

Some mothers listened to their gut feeling that there was something more despite assurances that everything was “fine” from their doc, They spoke up and DEMANDED rechecks, second opinions, new providers, and/or whatever else they could do. Some were argued with, some were flat out disrespected and talked down to, some provide their own proof backed with vitals and stats yet still were not heard, and that ladies and gentlemen, INFURIATES me.  I was lucky enough to have providers that cared, paid attention and did the digging when I was oblivious to my own condition. In fact, I never even felt sick…. so I would’ve probably continued to go on with life and could have had a stroke later….We aren’t all lucky enough to have great docs that pick up on this from a simple statement as “my ankles are swollen, but otherwise I’m ok” and figuring out there was more going on, and it probably saved my life, but it couldn’t save my child’s…. and every now and then I still wonder if maybe I’d picked up on these symptoms earlier I could’ve changed things.  That’s the way things SHOULD go, but it isn’t always the way it does go.

It’s upsetting to think that the ones who are supposed to be watching out for us aren’t always right.  That’s not to say that they are going out of their way to be negligent, that’s not usually the case… but there are times when things are overlooked or disregarded for whatever reason (overworked, undereducated, etc.), There is no excuse, but it does happen, so I am here to tell you what you can do for yourself.

GET EDUCATED and ASK QUESTIONS: FIrst and foremost, learn the signs of pre-eclampsia. Headaches, Visual Disturbances, Swelling in hands, face and/or feet, and just some of the symptoms.  More information can be found here: http://www.preeclampsia.org/health-information/sign-symptoms

Learn what to look for so you’re not caught up in thinking that these are just “normal” pregnancy related things. I’m not trying to turn you into a hypochondriac, but I also didn’t know how often this condition is undiagnosed or done so too late.  Don’t be afraid to ask if you have questions, I promise you your concerns are not dumb, no matter how small, in fact they could bring about a way to monitor progression.  You cannot be too cautious.  Do be as kind in your words as possible, and remember that your docs are human, so treat them like one, even if you feel they are wrong.

That said, FIGHT for your care. If your doc won’t listen, then perhaps you need to be seeing someone who will, whether that’s a junior doc, a social worker, or a different practice altogether.  We CAN “fire” our doctors.  It’s not fun or clean, but in the end, if you have done all you can to take the best care of you and your baby possible doesn’t that matter more?  There is a reason we have “mother’s intuition”.  I want to thank the moms who have fought tooth and nail when they thought something was wrong – I hope it gives others the courage and inspiration to do so as well.

Summer Blood Drive Update! It’s scheduled – Sign up now!

We have officially scheduled the Tangerine Owl Project Blood Drive in honor of Griffin Maks!

Date: Tuesday July 29, 2014

Times: 2:00-7:00pm

Location: Oakton Community Center (Program Room West); 4701 Oakton St, Skokie, IL 60076

Appointments can be made prior to the date by following the link below and creating a login to schedule your slot.  Appointments are not required, but will help those in need of a specific time frame.  Walk-ins are welcome.


Treats, and family friendly atmosphere will be provided, so feel free to bring the kiddos along.

Our goal is 50 people, but we’d love to bring this community together to knock that goal right out of the park!